Just be, ying yang and dialectic

I was so stressed out no technique worked.

Then i "just be", accept the world as it is, not wanting to change, immediately i got happy.

But just be i cannot improve.

Another insight: this is the problem of ying and yang. Looking at the ying yang symbol, i notice that just be and goal orientation can coexist and they must because both of them are needed. But depending on occasion, one polarity must be dominant than the other, just like the tai chi symbol, eg one big yang, one small ying.

So i have to set goal, after the goal stabilized i have to just be and let the goal runs its cause.

When there is pain, it is always using the wrong tools (ying or yang), just like tuning a machine or oracle. When the right mind state is used, there is always smoothness, or happiness.

Remember smooth.

When you are suffering, usually thinking in the opposite direction would go into the correct mind state.

This reminds of dialectic.