To win to be stressfree dont be afraid of losing

-Today i discover that i am afraid of losing, because i am afraid of losing. Because i am afraid of losing, i avoid conflict, and postmodern my mistakes over and over again, because i am afraid of losing i am fearful, stressed out and suck at poker.  That's why i cannot be a bad guy because bad guy entails risk of losing.

I have never been aware of this before, i always look down at singaporeans for being kiasu but never noticed this in myself. Since i am not aware of it i cannot correct it.

If i am not afraid of losing, immeidately i gain flexibility and relaxation and most important detachment.

-I must remember that it is never my fault. My personality and nerve is too complex near impossible by human to change; there are billions of connections like the milky way how can i change anything. So i am never blamable for my mistakes and shortcomming, and this non blaming makes me more powerful. Read the book Learned Optimism by Martin Seligman.