But yet if we dont become the best, we will be more miserable. So what is the solution?
Free play is the solution. You decide to be the best, to overload yourself. Then you do the overloading and the fight. Then, this is the key point: paradoxically the next step is you dont care about the result but you continue to work. This is playing, doing something yet dont care about the result. But it is different from playing, because it is more disciplined than playing. So two opposites polarities come together. Joy come out of fighting and hard work.
The book free play by Stephen Nachmanovitch says you must yourself out of everyday by playing, it is an mystical act.
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"Though love is a material act (whether sexual love, friendship, parenting, or any other kind of devotion, love is always an act), it lifts us out of the ordinary world into a kind of mystic participation with one another. We tune, more and more finely, our capacity to sense the other person's subtleties. We are willing to be infinitely patient and persevering. In a sense, genius equals compassion, because both involve the infinite capacity for taking pains. The great lovers, the great world reformers and peacemakers, are those who have passed beyond their individual ego demands and are able to hear the cries of the world. The motive is not self-gratification, but gratification of a bigger being of which we are part. Genius and compassion signify a transcendent, painstaking thoroughness and attention to detail--taking the trouble to take care of our body and mind and everyone else's body and mind.
This is exactly what we do when we set out on the adventure of loving another human being. We learn, the easy or the hard, to cultivate receptivity and mutual, expressive emancipation." "
This is exactly what we do when we set out on the adventure of loving another human being. We learn, the easy or the hard, to cultivate receptivity and mutual, expressive emancipation." "
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